Monday, February 27, 2006

Back Online

I'm Finally back online with the rest of the world! I felt So out of touch for the last few weeks. We just got new carpet (which is Fabulous by the way)and we had to basically move out of our house for a few days. We took out my computer as well as my desk and in the interest of space we are not putting my desk up back and I am now typing on a new lap top. All that to explain why I have not been online in a while.

Since my last post I have gone back to work 2 days a week! Its so different from when I went back with Jack full time. Full time was too much time away from my baby. Part time is a nice break. Its just for a few hours a couple days a week. I kind felt like I was on a mini vacation. I know that sounds bizarre and I hope it doesn't sound like I didn't miss my kids because I did.The difference is while I am at work I feel like I am accomplishing something and while I am at home things CONSTANTLY need to be done and as soon as I do them they get UNdone. Its Endless Constant work! When I do something at work I get to complete the task and it typically stays completed, at least for the day. Does anyone get that?
Apologies to all for slacking on my blogging! Hopefully this laptop will make it easier.

14 comments:

Annette said...

good to hear from you, Sara!!! you make complete sense. Do you have the boys in daycare while you are at work? How did you find a good one?

Sarafu said...

No, I would have a hard time leaving them in daycare I think. I am Very lucky that I have always had the luxery of having people I know come to my house and watch Jack. It was a little more difficult to find a babysitter for 2 but the girls at work wanted me back so bad that one of them, keri, volenteered to watch them on her day off.! Plus she is one of Jacks favorite people. Thanks Keri!Daniel was going to be watching them on Saturdays and it didnt work out so well so we are in process of finding a different arrangment for Sat.
As for finding a good daycare, we thought that we were going to have to put Jack in daycare when I went back to work after having him. I talked to Alot of people and called alot of daycares to find a good one. I think that I had settled on one that had a ton a good reviews from other moms that had used it. It was more pricey but it had a great reputation. Thanks to alot of prayer we didnt have to use it though. Actually after paying for daycare I wouldnt of been making much money and it really wouldnt have been worth it.
Its funny that before I had Jack I really thought I would want to go back to work because staying home would drive me crazy. I had No idea what emotions came with being a mom. Between the guilt that came with leaving him and the intense love I had for him working became alot less important. Unfortunatly I had to go back full time to pay off my maternity leave.
Sorry I went off on a tangent

Annette said...

no! I loved your tangent. It is all stuff that we have been talking and wading through. We don't have to make the decision yet thankfully, but we want to be as prepared as possible. We both want for me to be able to stay home with our children. As things currently sit though, we can not survive without my income. We are weighing all the options, but no solution yet.

Sarafu said...

Although 9 months seems like forever when your pregnant I sure am glad that God gave us that time to prepare for the end result. I know that by the time you guys finally have children that God will work it all out. It may not be till the last minute but you should be used to that after being in missions. :)

Elizabeth F. said...

I just wanted to say that God makes a way for you to stay at home if that is where your heart is. My plan (that seemed to work) was to go part-time before you actually have a baby. That way you prepare your budget, and it's not a shock and too stressful once the baby gets there. You can also live without things that society seems to think are necessity (cable, cell phones, DSL, 2 cars, etc...) You learn to cut corners and make your dollars stretch. Also, having a stay at home mom that you trust to watch your child is much less expensive than traditional day care centers which can be $200 week for a newborn.

The other alternative to wean yourself away from work, is to find a job that is flexible that you can do from home or take baby along. OR watch other people's kids? That way you can have the best of both worlds. It is really hard work, but when you know in your heart that you want to be a stay at home mom it is a possibility. OK. There's my spill. Good Luck.

Elizabeth F. said...

Sara,
If you are in a bind, I could probably watch the boys on Sat morning. LMK.

E

leviathen said...

ill watch em!

i promise i won't drop em

l.

~Keri~ said...

Hey it's good to have you back at work. Hey could we work on the whole shareing illness with with jack and i I really Love him but not what he shares! LOL See you soon~

Sarafu said...

E,
I am in a bind and I might take you up on that :)
Hey Lee, could you come to my house to watch the kids.....I dont think the kids would do so great on the drive to your house? Be here at 9 AM on Wednesday. I will be expecting you!
Keri,
Sorry that Jack shared his Pink eye. He was trying to be nice! :)

leviathen said...

whose lee?

Elizabeth F. said...

I was thinking the same thing...who is Lee? Just like who is Dan? :-)
just joking...but LMK about Saturday ASAP!

Liz said...

Ever since I can remember, I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom and wife more than anything! I know that God led me to get a teaching degree and it was his will for me to use it for a few years, but now that I am pregnant I could really care less whether I ever teach again or not. I know that some moms have to work full time and don't have a choice- I was worried whether we could afford it since my salary is vital to our budget right now. When I first found out I was pregnant, I spent alot of time praying and sobbing about the possibility of having to work after the baby is born. I decided that I needed to just start claiming out loud when people asked about it that God was going to provide somehow so that I can stay home. He has built my faith through that and Jamie and I have been given a very clear promise that I will not be working next fall. We have no idea exactly how that is going to work out yet, we just know that God is making a way. Elizabeth, I liked your suggestions- we may definitely have to cut out some "extras" and I may do some tutoring or something on the side as well. I am so thankful that we have God to turn to in these situations....if I had to figure this out on my own I would really be losing my mind! Matter of fact, Every time I try to take the matter back from God and start worrying, I am rather nuts (just ask my poor husband!) Hope everyone has a great week!

Annette said...

we've already cut all the "extras" out of our monthly expenses...that's the problem. There isn't really anything else to cut to make the bills smaller. We have even been talking about renting our house out so that we can move into a smaller apartment. That doesn't work out to save us any money though because with the cost of apartments around here and the diffrence in the mortgage payment we would have to pay would end up costing us more monthly. All we can do is leave it in God's hands.

Liz said...

Annette,
I totally understand what you are saying. My husband and I have looked at our budget and even if we cut out every possible extra- we would not be able to pay all of our basic bills on his salary (as it stands currently). The problem is that I currently have the higher paying job. It wouldn't do us any good to move to an apartment (like you were saying) because our morgage payment is cheaper than rent around here. In light of all of that, we feel like God has told us that he is making a way. In our human interpretation that seems to mean that he will be changing jobs (he is currently the youth pastor at our church). He is pursuing further schooling in order to do that. There may also be possibilities for me to do something on the side as well. I just really hope that God is going to provide something around Valpo, but we are very aware that it may mean moving as well! :( I just know that one way or another God's way will be best-it's just hard not to get impatient because I would like to know the big picture now! I am sure that when it is time for you to have kids God will provide in the same way!