Wednesday, April 04, 2007
"Dont point your finger at CRAZYPeople!"
Girl Interupted has got such a plethera of great lines to chooses from when speaking about crazy people. If you havent seen it then go RIGHT NOW and rent it! Go....seriously, right now!!! ANyway, I was trying to help someone the other day with a dilema concerning a friend and she was talking about how she couldnt talk sense to her because she ONLY understood her own perspective and refused to listen to anyone elses. Then I started thinking about all the times that I have come into contact with people like this who I spend my time trying to resolve things with them on a rational level and we just end up where we started. The title line went through my head and I realized that, maybe, there is no point in trying to rationalize with an irrational person. You cant expect logic and reason from a person who doesnt function on that level. So, my question is this...What do you do with these situations? Do they get a free pass and are allowed to act and speak as they please because no one wants to deal with their irrational behavior or do we address it? And if we address it, how the heck do you do it??
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These questions are too hard for at the end of the day. I prefer to just quote lines from Girl Interupted :) "Now Janet...what kind of tree can you be on the ground?"...."I'm a f***ing bush alright!"
Annette
"Give it up Crazy B&%$#"
HeeHee! I love to quote that movie!
I've dealt with certain situations like the one you're dealing with, and I think that whether a person is acting rationally or not, you still have to come at them rationally. You can't enter their crazy world, you have to try to bring them up into reality.
However, I have found there is benefit to trying to figure out what it looks like from their perspective.
Just look at the irrational person and say "problem?...no problem!"
Annette
Good question Sara- I live with a crazy person. Well, not exactly crazy, but she's very stubborn and can be rather self-centered and really, its her way for the high way. You have to know when to pick your battles. Sometimes its not worth getting in a fit over which show we are going to watch or who is going to do the dishes- because really, in the grand scheme of life, I could care less about that stuff. But when she says hurtful things, or does something totally rude and bratty- I hit her back with her own medicine. It might be juvenile, but usually she will call me out on it, and then I will say "um, you just did that to me-" and I will list an example. So far it's worked. Its the best way to get irrational people to see the rationality of their behavior. It's plain and simple, cut and dry and usually gets the best results. I love using examples- like "Hey, well, you wouldn't like coming home from a full day of work to find me lounging around on the couch while the dishes are stinking up the kitchen. So, why would I want to come home to that?" Gets her every time!
"I think its nice to do something nice on Daisys last day"
Hey, Do you guys ever see the phrase "eat in kitchen" the same way now. Daniel and I always look to see if houses have "eat in chickens" :)
"Hey, Torch, whatcha doin?"..."nothing"..."then why don't you go to your room and do nothin"
Annette
"Lisa, your aorta is in your heart!"...."Oh...good to know!" LMAO!!!!
Annette
Hey Girlscout! :)
It sounds like your roomate has at least some rationality about her b/c she at least sees a point when you make it! It sounds like your in training for marraige someday! LOL! Just kidding. It does sound like you handle the situation in the best possible way!
Its good to hear from you. I am sorry I have been MIA latley. How is life in Seattle???
Seattle is wet. But we've been getting some sun and man, I am sooo ready for the summer. I really do need to come visit before Asher heads off to college.
do children count as irrational people? if so i have two and am outnumbered here 2 to 1. of course if i had a husband it'd be 3 to 1 so maybe i'm better off :)
yep, I feel out-numbered all of the time! 4 to 1. I won't say you are better off, cause that would get me into trouble, he..he...
Hey-I'm back from Disney! Pictures to post very soon! :-)
i have an ex who's irrational, that should definitely count:)
it counts. LOL!
I hate feeling like you cannot be understood and that they think that YOU are wrong or crazy! But, reality is only real to you, and unfortunately their's is very much real to them. :-(
it counts. LOL!
I hate feeling like you cannot be understood and that they think that YOU are wrong or crazy! But, reality is only real to you, and unfortunately their's is very much real to them. :-(
C'mon, girl! Blog! BLOG! BLOOOOOGGGG!
let's just make something up. i know: boobies on a plane. talk amongst yourselves.
:)
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